By Masroor Ahmad
Suppose you are in the middle of choosing your perfect wedding dress, and all of a sudden, a thought strikes in your mind – Why am I even getting married? You begin answering yourself with mundane reasons like we are perfect for each other or our family gets along. And these are some very logical answers. But should you only think logically?
That is why I have come up with an unusual checklist which will clarify all your doubts about getting married. Not only this, but you will start appreciating your partner’s love even more.
1. You’re better friends than lovers
Why do you think that Monica and Chandler from Friends end up getting married?
Most of us fall in love, and then we realize that we can also become good friends, but these two characters did it opposite. The biggest challenge couples face is that they have to accept all the flaws of one another, and they still find them attractive. That’s what Monica and Chandler did. That’s how it is supposed to be. The secret to any long-lasting relationship is that they are best friends and idle Romanic lovers. A good friendship is accepting one another without any boundaries and conditions. Because they will annoy you some time or might piss you off. But at the end of the fight, you still want them to be there for you, no matter what!
2. Fighting reveals your Passion
Did you know that 44% of married couples believe that fighting more than once a week helps them make their relationship healthy and productive? And this not by chance! Many couples love intense argument because it increases their hormone levels. However, in their mind, they know that their fight is only a sign of disarrangement, which will result in even more passionate patch-up. The goal should be to finish the argument positively.
How do you achieve that? For instance, if there was a massive fight between you two, and instead of searching the root of the issue, you start attacking them by getting all mean. The focus should be on the cause of the problem and not punishing the other person for who they were at that moment.
3. Marriage is not supposed to be ideal
Marriage is not about finding the ideal person but rather maintaining that perfect marriage. We tend to build a fictional story about how marriage is supposed to be. We pick these ideas from movies, failed relationships, family ties, and childhood trauma. And we get confused between sexual attraction and compatibility. Marriage is more about self-realization than a big luxury party. The charm of the marriage should not make you happy as dopamine hit makes you, instead it should make you aware of yourself. When you find that perfect another half, make sure you are ready to see the ugly side also. Accept love and hate. It would help you to fight with the difficult times.
Marriage is accepting Life, it is not supposed to be ideal.
4. Marriage is freedom
Khalil Gibran explains perfectly is his poetry that marriage should not seek any restrictions; perhaps it’s about love and freedom:
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one. Give one another of your bread but eat from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone. Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And start together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple and apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not each other’s shadow.”
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